Clubf Swingers

Frequently Asked Questions

The most asked question, ever...
Is it busy tonight? Or is it going to be busy tonight?

We are a bit like a pub or the town centre when you go shopping, sometimes we are busy, and sometimes we are quiet.

Some people would say the quieter nights are better as people make more effort to talk and chat and some people like more people to flit between. There is no formula for us to know how busy we are, and, to be honest, it's really down to your willingness to socialise...

Membership Details
Please bring one form of ID each on your first visit as we CANNOT issue membership without this. Driving License is best for us, but a Utility Bill or Passport is fine as well.

Your ID is used to verify your address and is not used for ANY other purpose, we NEVER send post out.

Couples
If you are new to swinging, please agree between you what your boundaries are, and revise that frequently. We rarely have trouble, but the most frequent bone of contention is about boundaries between you, either not discussed at all, not agreed or boundaries broken. If all you want to do is go for a drink because you are new and nervous, then agree to that between you, and stick to it, don't get carried away with yourselves and break the trust and agreement between you.

Mass Orgies
Many people think that when they walk in there will be a huge orgy going on, a pile of bodies like in Roman times and when depicted in paintings or on the TV.

It's not like that at all! (not in the public areas)

Where are you based?
We are 6 miles from J63 of the A1m, in Stanley in County Durham, we are very easy to find but please don't ask locals for directions to Clubf, discretion is valued, in all ways...

Please call for address details before making your first visit. We take your and our privacy seriously and do not give out the address anywhere on this site, you should ring and ask to be put on the guest list and directions will be given on the day of your attendance at the club.

Parking instructions will also be given. We maintain excellent relationships with the local police and council and endeavour to comply with any requests made to us regarding parking, it's important to us that our members cause minimal disruption for our neighbours who live in a peaceful, quiet area and we are trying our best that our popular club does not impact on their quality of life.

People leaving late, talking, slamming car doors and putting headlights on does cause some discomfort and that's why the police have been good enough to arrange to park where the least disruption is possible.

Of course we can't please everyone and do realise this is an inconvenience, and why should you comply? Because our members are nice, easy going people who don't like to upset anyone....just like us at the club.....So believe me, you're unquestioning and never ending co-operation is very much appreciated and I would like to think its appreciated by our neighbours...after all it could be worse, it could be the drunken, brawling, drug taking pub of past times?

How do we join?
Membership can never be guaranteed over the phone. You may be required to be introduced by another club member.

On your first visit, each person will be asked for identification.

This is absolutely essential for security reasons, so please understand that we can't let you join without ID. Acceptable forms of ID include: Driving license (prefferred) , Passport, Utility bill (gas, electricity etc) bank statement.

Will I have to give my name & address?
Yes, but don't worry. Your personal information is kept absolutely confidential, and is NEVER given to anyone. This is a common practice in the majority of clubs. After becoming members, you will be given a membership card with just your membership number and names on it.

When are you open?
Wednesdays, Fridays, Saturdays and once a month on Thursdays (call for info).

Saturday night from 8.00pm till 1.30 am for Couples, Single Girls and a limited number of approved Single Guys.

Wednesday for greedy girl parties. 8.00 till Midnight.

Friday for mixed night 8.00 till 1.30am.

Check our calendar for any other events we hold, from time to time we do put on different events.

We also host special events on the nights we are open (Birthdays, anniversaries etc) but on those special events nights the club is ALWAYS open for existing members.

The club can be hired for private parties, Sundays and sometimes on a Thursday.

Do we have to "do anything"?

No! There is opportunity but no pressure in our Club.

If you just want to stay together or maybe have a chat with someone and use the facilities that's not a problem.

We provide the facilities, any more is up to you.

You won't get pushed into anything you don't want to be involved in.

We do understand that you may feel a little nervous. Please don't worry. Clubf is a pressure free club, and no one HAS to do anything at all.

Still nervous? Give us a call.

We're coming for the first time and are nervous?
Everyone gets nervous on their first visit to a club. Just take the night at your own pace, you're not going to be forced to do anything.

Clubf is non-judgmental and open minded, we are all different and we are all friendly.

What if I see someone I know?
We cannot pretend this does not happen, from time to time it does, BUT there is an unwritten rule in swinging clubs that says "whatever happens in the club, stays in the club" and remember everyone is here because they have a common interest (and its not stamp collecting...).

How do we meet people?
Simply say hello and have a chat. People who come to the club are generally friendly and relaxed. Sometimes people are shy, have a few standard questions and just be brave and speak......That's a lovely dress you are wearing, a simple place to start a chat....

Can we have sex with anyone we like?
Provided it's with their consent, yes.

Never assume you have their consent... always ask.

I am nervous and don't want to play in public?
There are private playrooms, but if you would like to play in another more private area then we do hire the hotel rooms (if any are available) the cost is 10 per couple per hour.

I am worried I may not be invited to play or turned down
That may happen, try not to take it personally, not everyone is everyone's choice...that's what makes it fun, people like different things, as long as you are clean and fresh and like to chat, keep on trying.....ask the staff what you could do....keep on chatting, go in the hot tub!, this list is not exhaustive...

What are the best nights to join?
If you think you want busy then any Saturday, especially theme party nights, are usually busy nights.

Single Guys - You can only join Wed or Fri, they are equally as busy nowadays, it all depends who decides to come out to play!

Single Girls - You can join anytime you wish.

All nights have a different atmosphere, no night is ever the same, some nights will be better than others, it's really down to you, your frame of mind and if you go just wanting to socialise that's often a good way to begin, then anything else that happens is a bonus.

We have kept our prices as low as possible for several years now, we try to give value for money and hopefully succeed, we know times are hard. There are nights to suit all.

I am a single female but I want to try this, can I come alone?

Absolutely YES.

For sure you can and you will be made very welcome, this club is owned by a lady (Sue), managed by a lady and staffed by ladies (plus some lovely men as well) and I take your safety very seriously indeed, this environment is much different than going out to town on a Saturday night, getting drunk and meeting a stranger (of course that's fine if that's what you like to do).

We know who we have at the club, we check the playrooms regularly, our members look out for everyone, certain standards of behaviour are expected at the club and any breaches are generally reported quickly, we have easy access to protection (condoms) and we have an alcohol policy that means no-one should be so drunk they do not know what they are doing.

This is a great environment to meet people in, you are safe and it's discreet. If you want to arrange to meet someone here then you can come along, knowing if they don't turn up, well you won't sit there looking lonely... also knowing that if they do turn up but you don't get on, well you can both chat to others and it won't have been a wasted night.

I am a single guy and don't want to admit it, but it makes me nervous to come along
Everyone was nervous to begin with, you will not be the first and certainly won't be the last, remember, the best thing to do is talk to people, don't sit alone in the corner, get out and chat.

Your enjoyment of the evening is affected by the effort you put in, don't stand with groups of lads or follow the ladies and couples about, it's intimidating for ladies.

Introduce yourself and chat to people, go in the hot tub, have a sauna, chat at the bar.

Please remember that this club is not a brothel, nothing is guaranteed and unlike other clubs we are a pure swingers club and don't pay girls to come and entertain the guys.

People come to us because they have certain things in common - our members enjoy recreational sex and they enjoy the liberated environment, there is no hassle and no trouble.

How many people come along?
This question gets asked all the time and it really is impossible to say.

It's however many people feel like coming on the night, it's really down to you, if everyone comes that wants to, then the night will be busy, if everyone waits till they know who else is coming then the night may be quiet...

Generally, but not always, Wednesdays has a mixture of visiting businessmen/ladies and regular members, Friday is usually fairly balanced with single guys and couples and Saturdays is predominantly a couples night.

Every night is different and every night has a different atmosphere.

I visited once and didn't enjoy it?
As every night has a different atmosphere then it's difficult to judge on one night alone, so if you still want to try, well do it, nothing ventured, nothing gained as they say.

Often people take a few visits before they settle down, get used to the facilities, the environment and the staff, once this happens people can really start to enjoy Clubf, with some people it happens quickly and with some it takes times and for some it just does not happen at all.

It may be that you are wanting to try swinging but you are not in the right frame of mind for it, wrong time, right place. Don't dismiss, just come back another time.

I have been to other clubs and people were rude.
Clubs are generally friendly places, but if someone is rude or disrespectful then come and tell one of the staff as this will not be tolerated, remember we do have the dungeon and it does have whips in it...

Age restrictions
We have no upper age limit, we have a lower age limit of 23yrs, we have recently dropped from 25yrs to 23 as people seem to be more open minded and want to explore. We will consider people outside that age bracket but only if they are experienced swingers and come as part of a couple.

Do you have shower facilities?
We certainly do.

If I decide I want to stay over after I arrive, will this be possible?
If we have a room then that is no problem, rooms are 40, shared or 45, private, on Fridays and 45 (shared) or 55 (private) on Saturdays (this includes your entry to the club).

Check out time is by 10.30am and tea/coffee and toast is included as well as a towel each.

If we don't have a room then you can crash (cost 10 single, 15 per couple), we provide you with a duvet and a pillow and find you somewhere to sleep, usually the playrooms when the club has closed.

Please note that rooms, particularly the private rooms at weekends and all the rooms on theme party nights do get booked up well in advance.

Do you supply towels?
We supply towels, there is a 2.00 cost to hire one (with a 5 returnable deposit), or you can bring your own for free, we have safe and secure lockers to keep your belongings in.

Do you sell alcohol?
No, unfortunately we can't sell you alcoholic drinks, but you are welcome to bring your own. Please do not bring too much to drink as the aim of the club is to enjoy yourself and not to get drunk. Anyone we consider to be drunk may be asked to leave the club.

If you run out or forget your drink we can advise where to buy some (if it's early enough) but we are absolutely unable to provide you with any alcohol ourselves.

Do you take credit cards?
Yes we do, usually. There is a charge of 2.50 for using a credit card.

I am already a member of another club, do I still have to join?
I am afraid that all clubs are independently operated and membership is generally required by all clubs.

I come up here rarely, can I get a guest membership?
We keep our prices low and even if you join and come up a couple of times, it is a fairly low entry/membership fee.

Military
We fully support the military, both serving and retired. Proof is required and its half price entry and half price membership, always...(remind us though please). We have many military personnel in and appreciate that you are mobile and may not come in for a while, don't let that stop you.

Soft Drinks, Tea, Coffee etc.
We do not have a drinks license but we do ask that you buy your soft drinks etc from us. We also have crisps, chocolate, toasties and chips.

Do you have a drugs policy?
Yes we do.

Clubf has a very strict drugs policy. We don't allow illegal drug use under any circumstances, anyone found abusing this policy will be asked to leave and have their membership revoked, so please don't try.

Viagra cannot be purchased from us, though if you have it on prescription then it is absolutely fine to take it, but we cannot sell it to you (we do not stock it).

Parking
When you call us you will be advised where the correct place to park is.

Although it may not seem important to you, it is important that you take note. We have been through a few years of operating in this area and it has taken a long time to finally gain the trust and respect of most of the more equal minded locals, (that is not everyone, some still think its wrong to be liberated and have fun) the police and the council.

This has been achieved in a big part by observing the parking requests and the parking facilities that have full approval of the local Durham Police.

I am overweight/underweight and am conscious I am not a glamour model
You know what, we don't care and neither do our members, swinging is generally more about the person inside than their looks.

Of course everyone is not everyone's cup of tea, and that's why No means No, don't take offence, some people prefer blondes, some people like broad shoulders, some people like bald men, some people love curves, we are all different, get chatting and see what happens.

I am over 50, does this matter
Ditto to whats written in the previous question, believe it or not, the most popular guy in Clubf is over 65... ask us.

It's about you and your attitude and how you get on with people.

I am generalising of course, but if you are fairly relaxed and easygoing and friendly, then you probably will slip into our environment very easily.

Non-judgemental, what do you mean?
We absolutely try our best not to judge people on their likes, looks and loves, preferences, jobs, wallet size......, that means you will not be frowned upon for anything you do (as long as its legal and does not involve getting too drunk). You may not appeal to everyone, but you should never be criticised.

Disabilities
We do not discriminate against anyone with disabilities. It's important to us that we treat everyone equally and are even-handed with all our members.

We have deaf members and we have had blind members, we have people in wheelchairs and we have people with motor neurone disorders, we have many military with war wounds, as long as you can get up and down stairs, you will be fine. You can tell us or not, but we would prefer when you join that you do tell us so we are aware of any possible needs you may have, we don't broadcast this.

Discretion
One of our most important principles, discretion is crucial for your well being and for you to feel safe, this is what we don't do:

  • We don't discuss people outside the club
  • We don't trash people
  • We will NEVER sell our story to anyone (papers, tv, magazines) believe me, Sue gets regular emails and calls asking her to

What happens in Clubf stays there.

Zero rolerance
We have a zero tolerance policy for anyone who does anything illegal.

That works from the inside out, our members and our neighbours.

Don't even think about it. I have no hesitation in calling on the police force and providing statements.

Do you have any other rules?
All we ask is that you respect other members and the club itself.

Always remember that "NO" means "NO".

Finally, Ladies are in charge in this building.

Remember, if you are happy, then we are happy, if you come and have any suggestions or constructive feedback, then tell Sue or Rachel, if we can change things we will, if we can't, well we can't. (But we will try).

Complaints
We don't get everything right, we do try, but we are human. If we get something wrong please tell us, we will try and put it right.

Finally,
We welcome feedback and ideas. It's your club, we want you to enjoy your hard-earned quality time, and of course we want you to tell like-minded people and then we want you to come back!

Sue